A Listener Question: Leaving family behind: Do we go back for them ? Do we leave them alone? This is a very difficult thing for anyone leaving the message or a fundamentalist church. To what extent should you bear responsibility for helping others – especially your own family – to leave the message?
Continuing from my story of coming into the message, this video explains my experience in the church and decision to leave in 2013. Joining the Message seemed to be ‘the answer’ in my life. It felt like ‘home’ when I joined.
My personal story of being raised around message influence, and coming into church as a young adult after a confusing upbringing. My parents left the message when I was very young, but didn’t have any conversations with me about why they left.
For anyone leaving a fundamentalist faith group, like the message of William Branham, the experience is going to be individual and unique. Trying to compare, or expecting to find people who perfectly relate to our feelings and experiences, may be difficult.
One of the arguments I faced countless times while leaving the message was the issue of living a “clean life”. This is my viewpoint of why transformation is an expected result of social pressure, which the church thrives in creating.
If I were asked for one piece of advice to provide people in the early stages of leaving the message and an extreme faith group, I would say this: become endlessly curious, and seek understanding.
Giving yourself permission to step forward, breaking the “script” despite the feeling of fear is hard. It’s one of the most difficult things to do when you leave “The Message”, or any performance-based religious group.
People expect that you should have immediate answers for why you are leaving their faith group and, ultimately, where you are going. So is it okay to not have answers? Is it okay to not be able to explain your belief?
I have decided to step forward after years of silence, and contribute a perspective of the journey away from The Message, as a means of support for those struggling with leaving.
