Having left the message in 2013, this is a look back in hindsight of the things I’ve learned with the blessing of time and distance. These are personal thoughts and opinions from my experience. ...Read More
leaving the message
articles about the affect & fears of leaving the message
The decision has been made. You’re leaving. Now what?
Now you’re dealing with feelings you’ve never experienced before. It was bad enough trying to sort through the questions and issues of your faith. This is now where you know you can’t hide; you’re going to be the one that everyone feels sorry for. You’re going to be the one who never “had it”, who “couldn’t live it”, who was listening to the wrong voices and spent too much time reasoning.
What now? How do you move forward?
The following article is part of my “Barriers of Exit” series. These barriers are cognitive hurdles that make it extremely hard to question or leave the Message. For a questioning individual, they may have...Read More
Since leaving the message, one thing I have occasionally done is to listen to archived sermons from various churches and ministries. I don’t do it to load up on criticism or document my greivances....Read More
What is a System: “An organized, purposeful structure that consists of interrelated and interdependent elements (components, entities, factors, members, parts etc.). These elements continually influence one another (directly or indirectly) to maintain their activity...Read More
One of the arguments I faced countless times while leaving the message was the issue of living a “clean life”. As per the experience of many, they testify to the transformation they experienced as they...Read More
In my journey through the Message, one thing I was continually bothered by was the swift leap to labels. It’s not that this problem doesn’t exist elsewhere; let’s be honest, it’s a widespread part...Read More
The journey away from the message is intensely messy. It’s unavoidable, and there are many reasons for the emotional mess it makes – all of which are worth learning about. Why is it worth learning...Read More
(This article is intended for a wife who has questioned / doubted / disbelieved the Message – while her husband continues to believe) For the last few years, perhaps the most frequent message I’ve...Read More
I always hesitate to use the word “cult” because I know how hurtful & strong it is. I know I always felt very offended and misunderstood when someone (who knew nothing about my experience)...Read More